My Aunt was dangerously unwell and was diagnosed with chronic liver failure which kept her in a coma and fighting for her life. The doctors told us it was minute by minute for her now and that is how unwell she was. After weeks in hospital and her family being sent for twice she was that close to death but she came round and was eventually released from hospital.
Our family thought our nightmare was over but the fact was hers was just beginning. After over 30 years of drinking, her life was completely changed. She became very depressed and was still extremely weak.
She was suicidal. I will never forget that Friday evening when I rang her to see how she was and she told me she couldn’t take it anymore and wanted to end it all. I panicked, couldn’t breathe, and didn’t know what to do. Then I remembered a friend telling me about the Bill W Club (A Vision Beyond Addiction) which she now attends.
She gave me the telephone number of the gentleman who runs the club and I rang him straight away. He immediately answered the phone to me and I was sobbing and trying to explain my aunt’s case.
He was so nice, calm and reassuring and told me he would meet me at my Aunts house in forty five minutes. This was at 7.30 p.m. on a Friday evening. Who else would you be able to ring at this time, especially at the weekend and get a response like this.
At 8.15 p.m. he arrived at the house with a female member of his group. On seeing my Aunt he recognised her from the days he was a taxi driver in town. My Aunt was in a bed that was made up for her in the living room and he approached her and had a quiet conversation with her.
After a few minutes there was a small smile from her. She opened her eyes and she recognised him and he sat and talked with my aunt for about an hour. He told us she would be fine and that he would be back out the following morning at 12.00 to bring her to her first A A meeting. We did not know what to think. Here she was lying on the bed so sick and he was saying he would pick her up the following morning.
I couldn’t believe it how he went out of his way on a Friday evening for our family. True to his word, he arrived out with the same female member of the club at 12.00 and brought my aunt to her first meeting.
That was fifteen months ago. She now attends her meetings at least four times a week and she is attending hospital in Dublin as a direct result of excess Alcohol.
Because of this intervention and its miraculous outcome she has seen her two grandchildren born. She’s involved again with the family and is still the life and soul of the party only this time around she is sober.
Families in situations like ours need the help of organisations like The Bill W Club and I truly believe that on that Friday night, not only did they save my Aunts life, they saved a whole family.
We as a family will be forever grateful for the work and service carried out by the Bill W Club. I personally will never forget the kindness shown to myself, my Aunt and family from the staff of the Club.
I think it is amazing that this club is open 365 days and nights a year and that the service is free. They deal with the families as well as individual addicts and if they can’t help you they will find someone who can.
Our families’ lives changed for the better one hour after meeting this group. They helped my Aunt do for herself what the medical profession could not get her to do. They proved to us that this is an illness of the mind and body that only the individual themselves can resolve if they have the proper guidance and mentoring.
Many thanks and much gratitude from a family united through recovery.
One Day at a Time.
Update May 2014
A word from my Aunt
I have struggled for the last three years and not once did I have to turn to alcohol in dealing with any of the serious issues I have encountered. I can only put this down to the 12 step recovery program of AA, and all the help I received from Bill W Club in my early days of recovery.
I have received a new liver now and the operation was successful yet sometimes I can’t believe I have come this far. I never knew how ill I really was and I am very grateful to all those who have helped me in my recovery from the illness of alcoholism and the serious liver problems I developed as a consequence of my addiction to alcohol. Mi life is now very much one day at a time.
Up-Date; November 2015
Four years on I am still sober and free. I have seen grand children I would never have seen had I not met the man from the club. I am fighting cancer now and all through this I have never picked up a drink; I know alcohol never solved any of my problems; it only caused more. If I can do this anyone can.
Up-Date: April 17
Five and a half years in recovery and now fighting cancer, I know that I have that the disease of cancer has many serious health implications for anyone, but I know that if I don’t maintain my recovery from addiction first I’m finished.
This is the power of the program of recovery for me: being able to see that living one day at a time from addiction gives me the opportunity to fight any other situation that comes into my life.
I am grateful to social ground force and the club for introducing me into the program of recovery, without their help I would be dead of that I am sure. this works